At the risk of sounding like a curmudgeon, I find Tom Brady’s family situation a bit unsettling.  I’m thinking of it from the oldest son’s point of view.  How does a small child understand having a famous father that has never lived with his mother since he was born?   Especially if the Mom lives in California and the Dad lives in New York?  Brady’s puzzling family drama leaves me scratching my head.

50% of children are born to single moms.  Getting pregnant when you aren’t married is no longer taboo.  The popular morning show host, Savannah Guthrie, proudly announced at her wedding that she was 4 months pregnant.  I guess that didn’t bother anyone.  But at least, she was getting married to the father.

I’m glad Brady’s ex girlfriend , Bridget Moynahan, decided to give birth,  and I applaud Tom for being a part of the boy’s life. But it’s strange that the two of them  were in a 3 year relationship, and yet she didn’t conceive  until the month before they split.  What kind of birth control is that?   You don’t get pregnant when you’re madly in love, but wait until things are falling apart?

I’m sure it’s best that they didn’t feel pressure to get married at that point.  Being raised by people who don’t love each other would be toxic. And yet, how did they explain the facts of his life to this  little kid as he was growing up?  Even if you talked about male and female differences, and how a baby gets born,  I think it would be something the child couldn’t quite grasp.

It seems like every time Brady is in the spotlight, the media  interviews  Bridget Moynahan.  It must be embarrassing for the boy, year after year, having to read about the circumstances of his birth.   They say he’s “surrounded by love,” and I’m sure that’s true.  Only time will tell how he handles his very public parental situation.  Fortunately, he’s growing up on the East and West Coast where mixed up families are the norm..  It might be more difficult here in the conservative  heartland

All I hope is that ordinary men don’t decide it’s glamorous to father a child , break up with their baby mama,  then  marry another woman and start a new family.