DO YOU LIKE SAVANNAH’S HAIR?

My ambivalence toward perfectly beautiful women started when I was sixteen.  Girls and boys  went  “steady” in those days.   You wore the boy’s class ring on a chain around your neck.  If he was an athlete,  he let you wear his letter sweater to the movies.  And so it was that my first  boyfriend took me to see A Place In The Sun with Elizabeth Taylor. With a sinking heart, I knew I could never be that beautiful.   Everything about her was perfect. Which I could never be.  I’ve often felt that way about national  tv news reporters, including the perfectly groomed  Savannah Guthrie of NBC.  But now, due to the pandemic, she’s let her hair down, so to speak.  Do you like Savannah’s hair? 

Back to Elizabeth Taylor.  Most sixteen year old girls are pretty, just because they’re  young.  And yet, at that age, I didn’t appreciate the advantage of youth. Consequently,  when I looked in the mirror, I saw a freckled nose, frizzy hair, a pale complexion, and a mouth full of braces.  I thought of myself as “skinny,” not thin.   There wasn’t a chance in the world I would ever have the cleavage of Elizabeth Taylor in a strapless evening gown.  While I loved going to the movies, I often left feeling like a frump in comparison to the likes of Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelley.

Women in television are held to the same high standards.  They must have perfect hair –never gray– and makeup. Smooth complexions.    Long, shapely legs under short skirts. Female TV newscaster  look far more glamorous than their male counterparts.  Popular newsmen can be overweight, bald, pockmarked, have big ears ,wear glasses,, and still land high paying jobs.  Although a few, like David Muir, are obviously picked for their hunkiness, it’s not really necessary for a male  television reporter  to make it to the top because of his good looks.

Covid-19 has changed all that perfection for female reporters.  They’ve had to go it on their own.  Do their own hair and makeup, put up with unflattering lighting. But I like them more now.  Their ordinary  hair reminds you of your sister or best friend in college.  Everyone made fun of Judge Jeanine Pirro’s flyaway hair one night on Fox News.  But  I thought it made her appear softer, and down to earth.

Savannah looks more relatable now that she's doing her own hair. Do you like Savannah's hair?
She’s doing it herself now, during the covid-19 pandemic. Do you like Savannah’s hair?

Some people are upset about Savannah Guthrie’s hairstyle.  One woman tweeted that she ought to be ashamed of herself for not getting her hair done.  So, she’s supposed to let some infectious  hair dresser breathe on her, just so she can have stiff,  beauty parlor  hair?  I don’t think so.  Truth be told, I think she seems more genuine  without the perfect hair, clothes and makeup.  Do you like Savannah Guthrie’s and Jeanine Pirro’s  hair?  I do.

6 MISSING NUMBERS ABOUT COVID-19

 We’re bombarded with news about the coronavirus.  We know how many people got sick or died in our city, state, country, and all over the world.  Yesterday, we learned that the United States Treasury sent over one million stimulus checks to dead people.  But in spite of all the information flying around the media, there are still some things we don’t  know. There are six missing numbers about covid-19.

1. How many rich people received stimulus checks that they did not need? Shouldn’t  the  poor  and homeless have  received most of the stimulus money?

2. How many employees took a free vacation rather than returning to work? $600 a week federal unemployment plus state unemployment pay amounted to more than some were making in salary and tips. Especially in places with a low cost of living.

3.    How many patients were infected  in each nursing home ?   Our governor thinks it’s no one’s business.  But he’s wrong.  Most neighboring states are providing those statistics.

Missing covid-19 numbers. How many athletes have tested positive
6 missing covid-19 numbers. Many athletes testing positive are asymptomatic. What about everyone else?

4. How many  asymptomatic people are walking around? . Athletes all over the world are now being tested.  In one case,  there was a 35% infection rate among soccer players.   We’ll never really know those numbers unless every person in the world is tested.

   5. How many people who didn’t wear masks got sick? If you look at the folks  not wearing masks, you may notice that they often  don’t look very clean.    Out in the parking lot, you see them getting into dirty cars  filled with trash. Consequently, you wonder how their homes look.   These are not people worried about good hygiene.  It would be helpful to know the statistics.  Do those of us  who follow CDC guidelines have a lower infection rate?  Or does it not make any difference at all?  Careless people might have developed better immunity  over the years, after being exposed to so many  more germs.

6. How many businesses got rich on the virus? Manufacturers of hand sanitizer and face masks, for starters.  Grocery stores sales increased by 50% at first. .At least 7 healthcare  billionaires got  richer off the pandemic. As a result, while poor people are lined up for free food, these  lucky guys are looking at bigger yachts and vacation homes.

When we come up with  a vaccine, the pandemic will end.  Then, maybe some investigative reporters will come up with the answers to those questions.

COMIC RELIEF WITH MEGHAN & HARRY

I got a good laugh when I looked at my iphone this morning. It says Meghan moved to LA so she could run for president. Don’t you just love Harry and Meghan? They are the quintessential soap opera stars. They make us forget about covid-19 and police brutality. Just when we think we can’t stand the world we’re living in , we find comic relief with Harry & Meghan.

Meghan and Harry provide comic relief during these trying times.
Comic relief with Meghan & Harry. Their trials & tribulations keep us entertained during these trying times.

They’re full of drama and excitement.  Beautiful Meghan from a dysfunctional, mixed race family.Handsome Harry, from an equally dysfunctional family. Not mixed race, but mixed up, for sure.  And yet, they’re providing us with a glimpse of their struggles that are somehow entertaining and funny. As a result, those two have done the world a great favor the past three months. While we’ve been stuck at home during the coronavirus outbreak, they’ve taken our minds off of Donald Trump, Nancy Pelosi, Joe Biden, covid-19, and the violent protesters who are hell bent on destroying our country.

Just like us, Meghan and Harry had the rug pulled out from under. When they left England, they thought it would be smooth sailing. Instead, they’re on this bewildering odyssey in search of their true selves. Lurching from country to country, trying to figure out how to function and thrive.  And we have been with them every step of the way.  Are they broke? Is Meghan desperately trying to revive her acting career?  Is Prince Charles mad at them? Has the queen disowned them? It’s like this wonderful soap opera going on every day, and yet it’s real.

While standing in line at the supermarket checkout–sweating with my mask, feet aching– I look for distraction.  Pictures of Harry and Meghan on every magazine cover take my mind off the discomfort of social distancing. Viva Harry and Meghan!

I guess they’re wondering about their next move. Here’s my advice. Ditch stuffy old England. Forget about finding causes or new jobs. A reality show would draw millions of viewers.

NEWSPAPERS WOULD DIE WITHOUT OBITS

Who  would have two morning newspapers delivered to their home?  My husband and me, that’s who.  We’re old fashioned people who grew up in the days when they were a major source of news about current events. Now,  there’s little in the papers that we haven’t seen on the internet or TV.    Consequently, obituaries are  the only unique stories newspaper have to offer. Newspapers would die without obits.

With newspapers pages dwindling, there’s less “hard news” .    Readers look for juicy scandals and crime and major events.  They’re interested in local politics that affect their lives.   We don’t get much hard news lately.  There aren’t enough reporters on staff.  Therefore, we  get more” soft news”.  Long stories about sick children with rare diseases,  or protest marches.   Columns of print about frogs or daffodils or the changing of the season. Recipes make good fillers, too.  The ones that make it to print are full of weird ingredients and time consuming procedures.  I used to try some of those recipes.  As a result, my cupboards got overloaded with strange spices that I never used.

The only unique thing about newspapers are the obituaries.  They’ve undergone some radical changes in the past decade.  Time was when obits were fairly cut and dried.  Year of birth. Marriages. Children. Education. Clubs .  Survivors.  Profession.   Charities .  Date and time of funeral.  Long obituaries were discouraged for the average, middle class person.

Obituaries are the most interesting things to read. Newspapers would die without obituaries.
Obituaries have become much more interesting. Newspapers would die without obituaries.

Obituaries have become  like mini  biographies  We learn the deceased was the youngest or oldest of 10 children. What schools they attended from kindergarten on up.  Scholastic achievements and honors.  Whether they  were football players or cheerleaders or valedictorians .  Often married “the love of their life..” Became a fabulous mother/father,  grandparent, host and friend.  Enjoyed  pastimes like  bowling, painting, golfing,  bridge. Had hobbies like quilting or woodworking.  Every award they ever received in their entire life.  Each job they  held,. Countries visited, Volunteer work .  A lot of creative writing goes into  a decent obituatry.

I love reading obituaries,  especially if the deceased was  very old.   Of course, we never read about their failures and disappointments.  Consequently, the fantasy of a perfect life is carefully preserved for posterity.  Doesn’t everybody love a happy ending?

Newspapers would die without the obituaries.

BEST GIFT FOR AGING DAD

Forget the shirts and chocolates this Father’s  Day.  If your Dad  is aging  in place, there’s something much better you can give him .   Stop by his home and look around. Is there a flower bed that needs weeding? A broken screen door? A room that could use a coat of paint? If you’re able  to tackle one of those small jobs, that is the best gift for your aging Dad.

A home visit, some home repairs, is the best Father's Day Present.
Best gift for the aging Dad might be a visit from great grandchildren, or some help with home repairs.

In our modern culture, many of us no longer have grown children living nearby. But what a blessing for those who do.  My husband’s three kids are close enough to help out with  occasional chores and home repairs.  Recently, one son replaced our mailbox after it collapsed on the driveway.  Another fixed a fallen down light pole.  And his sweet daughter planted geraniums in our window box and outdoor planters.  Her husband pitched in, too.  Removing a picture window that hadn’t been washed from the inside for years, then putting it back more securely in place. And best of all, a visit from a great grandchild. Those are the most wonderful Fathers Day presents any man could ask for.

A few elderly widows live along our street.  As we sit on our front porch, we see their children drive in the driveway.  I don’t know whether they are bringing food, doing laundry, or just visiting.  But they are making a big difference in their mother’s lives. Because of their help and loving concern, their parent  can stay in her own home.

This may not have seemed as important before the coronavirus hit.  But now, those  folks who moved to retirement communities were confined to their rooms for months.  Seniors living in their own homes had much more freedom and less fear of catching covid-19.

If and when the time comes that we need help with the ordinary activities of daily life, we will opt for assisted living. We don’t expect our children to be our caregivers.  But for now, we feel blessed by their kindness. And just knowing they are there for us means a lot.

The best gift for your aging Dad might be replacing that flickering florescent light bulb  in the kitchen. There’s a special place in heaven for those who look out for their elderly parents.

Happy Father’s Day!

LOVE OUR LOCAL POLICE

Our city is not overly safe.  We have a crime index of 20, which means that 80% of US cities are safer than ours. Therefore,  our local police do not have an easy job.  Death by gunfire is a hazard. Officers are often shot when making arrests.   Being a cop is not for the faint of heart.  But having lived in this community for a good part of my life, I’ve come to love our local police.

People in big cities like Seattle and Minneapolis would probably be offended if I said such a thing in their presence.  They seem to hate the police, and often it’s for good reason.  Everyone was horrified as they witnessed the murder of George Floyd on television.  It’s hard to believe that  police would resort to such brutal tactics.    Why don’t we have that problem in small cities?

Should we defund or love the police
Police face dangerous situations every day. Should we defund, or love the police?

Possibly, it’s because our police officers are often  someone we knew from our neighborhoods or schools.  Similarly, when making arrests, the officers may be acquainted with the offender, or someone in the family.  Also, our police department is proactive  in our community with many  outreach programs.  If you take a walk through one of our parks, you’ll often notice a police car making the rounds. That makes me feel safe.  Similarly, I don’t feel upset when a police car is behind me in traffic.  I know  they will protect me if something bad happens.  And best of all, is seeing a police car parked in front of a school.

Should we defund the police?  I can’t imagine why.  Who would you call if a crime takes place?  What if you’re being robbed, or threatened with a home invasion?  Without the presence of a local police force, criminals would have free rein .  Years ago, I was a witness in a murder case.  It was a frightening experience, and I had to spend some time answering questions at the police station.  They treated me with respect and dignity. And the murderer was sent to prison, which was where he belonged.

Being a police officer is a physically demanding job. Consequently, they must pass physical ability tests to make sure they have the stamina, endurance and strength required. Also, they can’t have  a criminal record.  Background checks must show that they have the mental resilience to endure the frightful images and dangerous situations they encounter on a daily basis

.Police  are first responders to public safety issues and serious crime  .As a result , there will be slower response to 911 calls if they are defunded.  Therefore,  delays in police response will increase fear of crimes, make victims of crime helpless, and wreak havoc on our community.

Let’s love our local police, not defund them.

 

 

PANDEMIC SENSE AND NONSENSE

Things are settling down and reopening up.  Although the coronavirus is still with us, we can sit back and wonder about the pandemic sense and nonsense that occurred.    A lot of decisions were made by different elected officials all over  the country, that didn’t seem well thought through. Here in the heartland, ordinary people don’t always agree with  what has gone down.

Pandemic sense and nonsense: Stimulus checks. Unemployment benefits. Libraries last to open. Politicians blaming each other.
Why weren’t stimulus checks based on need?  Pandemic Sense & Nonsense

Congress  hurried up and passed a massive stimulus bill that benefited some people far more than others.  The strangest thing was the stimulus checks.  Anyone who filed a tax return for less than $75,000  received  tax  free money that wasn’t based on need or cost of living.  $1200 won’t go very far in San Francisco, but it could pay for a lot of rent and groceries in small town, America. Same thing with the unemployment benefits. $600 a week  plus state unemployment will go a long way in some parts of the country.  In fact, it’s proven to be a disincentive for restaurant employees’ returning to work. Consequently,  a lot of tax payer money has gone to people who really don’t need it at all.

.Restaurants and bars have been allowed to open for a couple of weeks in our city.  They must follow certain social distancing guidelines but at least you can be served a meal that you didn’t have to cook or send for.  This coming week, our library will finally be allowed to open their doors.  Does this seem a little strange?  Why are libraries so far down  the totem pole? They should have opened before bars and hair salons.

Libraries are at the heart of any city. Books feed the soul, and will get you through  tough times.   I can remember growing up in the post depression years during World War II.  Everything good was rationed. You couldn’t’ even buy ice cream—it had to be sherbet, unless you made it yourself. But the highlight of my week—starting at age six—was my weekly trip to the library.  A good book will take you to far away places, and  show you how people in other times or in different countries think and feel.  Nothing can replace books.  Certainly not a bottle of beer or a plate of spaghetti eaten at a restaurant.

Mask wearing was another thing. First, we were told it didn’t help to wear a mask. Then, about a month later, all the scientists were telling us we should wear masks, after all.  It’s no wonder so many people refuse to wear one.

When things settle down, we’re going to look  back at some of the decisions that were made and scratch our heads.  Mayors are criticizing governors, and governors are criticizing the president.  The politicians are all busy pointing fingers and placing blame.  But the truth is, everyone has been  floundering in a sea of the unknown.  Common sense went out the window