DECLUTTERING DIARY; DAY 93

When  I posted DeCluttering Diary: Day One,  last July on my first blog, EightyGo,  I had no idea that it would go viral, or that our decluttering project would continue for so long. I thought we had gotten rid of most of the junk in our house.  Oh, how foolish I was! Yes, I had cleaned out  drawers and closets, upstairs and down, in our two story house, but I hadn’t begun to think about the basement.

Declutterng is hard if you've lived in a house for 50 years.
Everything gets hauled away in a truck

Cleaning out the basement of a house that has been lived in by the same person for 50 years is an overwhelming project.  My husband had two separate careers during that time,  and there were boxes of newsletters awards, pictures, reports from all those years.  But the majority of the shelves full of boxes were there before I arrived 30 years ago.

In yellowed, rotting cardboard boxes—unopened once they were sealed with masking tape a half century ago, were baby clothes, toys, scrapbooks, notebooks accumulated by my husband’s  three children who are now in their fifties and sixties. His first wife had carefully boxed up invitations, wrappings and bows from wedding  and baby showers through the years.  We found boxes of tablecloths, ceramics, trip brochures, towels.  Numerous fans, half empty paint cans, electrical cords—the list could go on forever.  You wonder why anyone would have kept all that stuff. But, I, too came with some baggage—old yearbooks, awards, memorabilia from the 26 years I served as Director of Food Service at an acute care hospital.  And of course, pictures of my three children from babyhood to parenthood.

You can see the truckload that emerged from our basement today.  That’s in addition to another truckload last month.  But we aren’t done yet.  There are still odds and ends that we have to think about.  Like the two oxcarts we purchased in Costa Rica 20 years ago.  Maybe we can sell some of these things on E Bay. This winter, we’ll bring up the boxes of pictures and decide which ones to keep.

We thought we would be finished with all of this purging by Thanksgiving, but it looks like it will go on until spring.

Read  DeCluttering Diary: Day One   https://eightygo.blogspot.com/2018/07/decluttering-dairy-day-one.htmln  EightyGo

PRIDE GOETH BEFORE A FALL

When a successful person like Megyn Kelly suffers a setback,  people are apt to quote the biblical proverb, “Pride Goeth Before A Fall.”   The same thing could be said of someone who is too proud to  use a cane when they need one.

After reaching a certain age, an epidemic of falls begin to occur among  elderly friends, family, and acquaintances.  Just this week, I heard of four people  who were hospitalized with broken bones and/or  a concussion, due to a fall.  Only one of these four is known to use a cane. 

Unfortunately, once you’ve fallen, you’re more apt to fall again.  That’s because you lose your confidence, for fear that you will have another bad fall.  You feel unsure of yourself, maybe a little shaky, but you’re determined not to be seen in public with a cane.  I’ve been going through this cycle lately, and finally made the decision that I’d rather use a cane than suffer another fall.  It was a little embarrassing, especially when old friends  asked, “why are you using a cane?”  May I offer a piece of advice?  Don’t ask anyone that question.  I can assure you they wouldn’t be on a cane just for the fun of it.

Now, I’ve started physical therapy with the hope I can walk like I did just a few years ago.   But when I told my therapist my goal of caneless walking, she said that I might always need one when walking through the woods, or on uneven terrain.  It’s all part of aging gracefully, (but not willfully).

Sometimes, even a cane won’t do the job.  My husband is diabetic, has no cartilage in his knees, and little sensation in his feet. He must use a walker if he’s going to walk for any length of time.   Many people might find this humiliating, but I think just the opposite is true.  I’m immensely happy  that he’s facing facts, and cares more about his health than his appearance.

A friend of ours who has experienced at least two bad falls in the past few years, proudly stated, ‘I will never be seen on a walker.” If this scenario hits home, ask yourself these questions. Do you really  want to end up in the hospital or a nursing home, upsetting your family, and no longer seeing your friends?  All because you were too proud to use a walker?

And if you have a grandmother, mother, or aunt who could use a cane, there are lots of pretty canes that would make a great Christmas gift.

FIVE WAYS TO SLEEP BETTER

Whether you’re eight, eighteen, or eighty, getting to sleep can be a problem.  By the time you’re my age, you’ve probably tried everything imaginable to deal with occasional bouts of insomnia.

You see a lot of  over the counter sleep aids at the drugstore,  but most of them don’t help  me. Awhile back, someone tweeted about an amazing sleep aid  that worked wonders for her.   I rushed out to buy the product, but alas,  it kept me awake all night.   What a bummer!   Finding an OTC drug  to help you   sleep is a matter of trial and error..  What works for one person, doesn’t work for the other.   Prescription drugs can pose a worse problem.  Once, after my husband took a sleeping pill his doctor prescribed, I found him doing laundry at 2 a.m.  The next morning, he couldn’t remember anything about it.

Insomnia

Of course, there’s no way you’re going to sleep well if something traumatic  has happened in your life.  Those are the times you just have to endure until you make it through the storm.  But even minor upsets can increase anxiety and keep you awake.

Here are five things that help me through the night.

1. . No caffeine after noon.  For years, I had to have coffee with lunch.  I’ve heard many people say they can drink coffee after dinner, and it doesn’t bother their sleep.  Well, good for them.  When I lowered my caffeine intake, I began sleeping better.  A great alternative for an afternoon beverage is green tea.  It’s contains an amino acid called theanine, which is supposed to be soothing.

2.   A  warm foot bath in the evening  while  watching television  or reading a book relieves stress and anxiety.   Pamper yourself with a foot bath if you’ve had a really bad day.

3. A walk in the park during the day.   One half hour of fresh air, sunshine and exercise makes a big difference. Once, when I was going through a tough time,  I walked my way out of my anxiety.  There was even a tree that marked the spot where I could feel the tension leave my body.  Swimming is another great exercise, if you have access to a pool.  And even if you can’t swim, water walking or an aquatic exercise class clears your mind and strengthens your body.

4.  No depressing movies  or TV shows about war, abuse,, murder, etc. etc.  Those shows always give me nightmares.   I don’t need to be reminded that the world can be a miserable place.  Give me Dancing With The Stars (especially the one with little kids)  for sweet dreams.

5.  Cover the digital clock on my dresser and the one in the cable box under the TV.  There’s nothing worse than waking up at 2:00 a.m., rolling over, and  checking  every few minutes to see if you’ve gotten any more sleep, and how much.  Don’t worry, you will wake up when the sun rises.

There are numerous habits, foods, and troubles that can keep you awake.   But  remember, you are not alone!   At any given time,  people all over  the world  are struggling with insomnia.