STOP! SAVE THE TURKEY BONES

By the time Thanksgiving dinner is over, everyone is in a hurry to clean the mess in the kitchen.  There are so many pots, pans, and serving dishes piled up in the sink, that it’s almost overwhelming. First thing most of us  do is get rid of the turkey carcass–clean off any remaining meat, then dump it in the trash.  Stop! Save the turkey bones and simmer them for a  delicious soup broth or nutritious bone broth.  Both are great for your health.

STOP! SAVE THE TURKEY BONES TO MAKE NUTRITIOUS BONE BROTH.
STOP SAVE THE TURKEY BONES. Don’t throw out the carcass. Use it to make turkey broth.

First break up the carcass into a big pot and cover with about a  gallon of water. Add a hunk of carrot, stalk of celery, some onion slices.    Throw in a couple of bay leaves and maybe some thyme. Cover,  Turn on the heat, and simmer for about an hour.  Now  you have the beginnings of turkey noodle soup.  Strain everything through a colander and save the broth.  Pick the meat off the turkey bones to put in  the soup. At this point, you can discard the bones—unless you want to take it one step further and make turkey bone broth.  In which case, you will keep  simmering the turkey bones on low heat for at least four hours.  Some recipes call for an eight hour cooking time, but others say four is enough.

After awhile, the  broth will begin to turn a pale gold color, and the bones will break up, along with the shredded meat.  You don’t have to do anything while this is going on.  Just smell the delicious fragrance of turkey broth filling the kitchen.   When you’re ready, strain everything through a colander.  The meat and bones can be discarded, because now,  you’ve extracted all the vitamins and minerals from the carcass.

If you’re tired from hosting  Thanksgiving dinner, treat yourself to a cup of miraculous bone broth while it’s still hot. .   The simmering  helps the bones to release healing compounds like proline, glycine, glutamine and collagen.  Suddenly, you’re feeling stronger.     A study at the University pf Nebraska Medical Center  found that the amino acids produced when making chicken stock reduced inflammation in the respiratory system and improved digestion.

Let the bone broth cool in the refrigerator, and skim off the top layer of fat. Store the broth however you like.  I prefer Tupperware containers.   You can keep it in the frig for a day or so, but it’s best to store most in the freezer.  One day this winter, when you’re feeling kind of puny, warm some bone broth  in a saucepan, add some noodles, carrots and celery, and you’ve got yourself a super soup  that will help relieve the misery.

Stop! Save the turkey bones.

CHILDLESS SHOULDN’T JUDGE PARENTS

Thanksgiving is coming!  Soon, everyone  will gather at Grandma’s house for dinner.  Or, perhaps one of the siblings will do the hosting.  There will probably be some kids running around the table, and maybe a baby in diapers.  While the parents are showing off their adorable offspring,  there may be  guests who don’t have any children.  Consequently, they might be critical of your parenting skills.  Why do you let your kids run wild?  Or let the baby scream at the top of her lungs?  There are lots of reasons that parents aren’t perfect.  But childless relatives shouldn’t judge parents of little kids.

Childless shouldn't judge parents of small children.
CHILDLESS SHOULDN’T JUDGE PARENTS OF SMALL CHILDREN. Raising kids is a 24/7 job, and can be exhausting in a country that lacks family friendly work policies.

Recently, there was a fire in a neighboring city, where two children perished in a trailer fire.  The media said they were home alone.  Turned out, they weren’t quite so alone as it sounded.  The mom had run  to the trailer next door after the kids were asleep.  Within minutes, a fire exploded in her  trailer, making it impossible to rescue the children.  Naturally, everyone began blaming the parents.  Especially people who don’t have any children. But then again, some of us  weren’t so quick to judge. The Dad was at work on the night shift.  Maybe the woman just ran next door to borrow a cup of sugar.  Or needed to talk to someone about a problem.  Living in a trailer, there’s not a lot of extra money floating around for therapists.  And if you were making a birthday cake and needed some sugar, running to the grocery store wasn’t an option.

I don’t know why that mother went to the trailer next door, and I probably never will.  All I know is that she had two children under the age of three, and her husband had to work nights. Maybe she worked days.  And when you’re raising two kids in a trailer, it’s not quite as easy as  if you live in a middle class home with a good furnace and no overdue bills.

Back to Thanksgiving dinner.  Why does your sister-in-law let her baby scream?  Possibly , she was up all night with the child, and is so exhausted that she doesn’t even hear it.  Why does your cousin let her boys run around the living room?  Maybe she’s hoping that by dinner they’ll have burned off some of their energy.  Or, it doesn’t really bother her, as long as they’re not pulling each other’s hair.  A person who’s never raised a child will never quite understand how  challenging it is to be a parent.  It’s a 24/7 job, with no sick days allowed.  According to a recent study, parents were worse off in countries where parents receive fewer subsidies and lack family friendly policies.  And the United States was at the top of that list. 

If you feel annoyed by little children on Thanksgiving day, take a deep breath and bite your tongue. After all, you’ll soon be walking out the door to  enjoy your peace and quiet.  But for parents, the beat goes on. Childless people shouldn’t judge those with kids.

Happy Thanksgiving.

HOLIDAY JITTERS & POST HOLIDAY RELIEF

Most people dread the holidays to a certain extent—some more than others.  Anyone who’s grown up in a dysfunctional family, endured a bad marriage, or experienced some holiday tragedy is apt to feel apprehensive when Thanksgiving draws near.  If you’re one of those people, here’s the good news:   If, by some miracle, you made it through last weekend with no major glitches or mishaps, things turned out far better than expected.    Hooray, you survived those holiday jitters & are now feeling  post-holiday relief. 

Of course, a few things went wrong.  The weather was awful.  You got stuck in the snow.  No one ate the sweet potatoes. The rolls got a little burned.   Some of the kids were  whiny.  Someone strained their back.

But:   There was plenty of delicious food to eat, and the turkey was done on time.   Everyone was in good health.  No one got really sick (maybe an upset tummy or two from too much pie.) , or ended up in the ER.  There were surges of  pure joy upon seeing the faces of beautiful grandchildren and reuniting with far away loved ones.  Everyone got along really well and enjoyed being together.  The whole family seemed to bond.

All in all, there was much to be thankful for.  You will never erase the bad memories of unhappy holidays long ago.  But if you accentuate the positive, and eliminate the negative, you will make it through the New Year.

Holiday jitters may precede holiday relief
You may dread Thanksgiving because of sad holidays in the past.

Now that the first holiday of the season is over,  you may feel exhausted.  It’s going to be a long Monday if you have to go back to work.  But if anyone asks  whether you had a good Thanksgiving, you can  smile and say, ” yes, I did.”

If you feel the pre-holiday jitters coming on again, just remember that song made famous by crooner Bing Crosby:

You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

 Happy Holidays to All!