HOME ALONE FOR THANKSGIVING

Did you know that one third of us live alone?  I mean, totally by yourself.  No partner, child, parent, or friend.  Many singles have been seeing other people during this pandemic, on a very limited basis.  And they may visit with those select few on Thanksgiving Day.  But many seniors will be Home Alone on Thanksgiving.  That includes my husband and me.

It’s not the first time for either of us to be away from family on Thanksgiving.  My husband is a Korean War Vet, and understood that being home for the Holidays wasn’t going to happen while he was in service..  When I graduated college and had my first job in Chicago, employers weren’t very forgiving.  We were expected to work the day before and after Thanksgiving Thursday.  My room mates were in the same boat and we made the best of it.  We cooked a turkey and invited friends over.  It felt rather  sad, but sort of fun to escape all the family melodrama. Fortunately, my sister and her brood lived near  my parents, so I didn’t have to feel guilty about not making it home.

Home Alone On Thanksgiving. One third of the population lives alone.
Home Alone on Thanksgiving. Seniors make the best of being away from family during the pandemic.

But that was all a long time ago.  We were young and resilient.  It’s a different story when you’re over eighty.   The holidays have always been a time of joy;  seeing children and grandchildren and sitting down to dinner together.  Now, along came Covid-19.  Back in March, we didn’t dream we would be isolated in the fall.  But it’s gotten worse instead of better. We won’t even be with my husband’s children, who live right here in town.

We thought about getting some carry-out food.  And our sons offered to bring us plates of dinner.  But for some reason or other, I decided I wanted our house to smell of turkey, dressing and pumpkin pie.  That will make me feel like I’m not missing out on absolutely everything.

And then, we’ll count our blessings:  Being together in our own home.  All the technology  like television , computers, and smart phones that keep us connected.  Library books.  Music.  Indoor plants and flowers.  Knowing that our grandchildren and children are healthy.  The gratitude list goes on and on.  Yes, we’ll be home alone on Thanksgiving.  But we have a lot to be thankful for.

HOLIDAY JITTERS & POST HOLIDAY RELIEF

Most people dread the holidays to a certain extent—some more than others.  Anyone who’s grown up in a dysfunctional family, endured a bad marriage, or experienced some holiday tragedy is apt to feel apprehensive when Thanksgiving draws near.  If you’re one of those people, here’s the good news:   If, by some miracle, you made it through last weekend with no major glitches or mishaps, things turned out far better than expected.    Hooray, you survived those holiday jitters & are now feeling  post-holiday relief. 

Of course, a few things went wrong.  The weather was awful.  You got stuck in the snow.  No one ate the sweet potatoes. The rolls got a little burned.   Some of the kids were  whiny.  Someone strained their back.

But:   There was plenty of delicious food to eat, and the turkey was done on time.   Everyone was in good health.  No one got really sick (maybe an upset tummy or two from too much pie.) , or ended up in the ER.  There were surges of  pure joy upon seeing the faces of beautiful grandchildren and reuniting with far away loved ones.  Everyone got along really well and enjoyed being together.  The whole family seemed to bond.

All in all, there was much to be thankful for.  You will never erase the bad memories of unhappy holidays long ago.  But if you accentuate the positive, and eliminate the negative, you will make it through the New Year.

Holiday jitters may precede holiday relief
You may dread Thanksgiving because of sad holidays in the past.

Now that the first holiday of the season is over,  you may feel exhausted.  It’s going to be a long Monday if you have to go back to work.  But if anyone asks  whether you had a good Thanksgiving, you can  smile and say, ” yes, I did.”

If you feel the pre-holiday jitters coming on again, just remember that song made famous by crooner Bing Crosby:

You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

 Happy Holidays to All!