MEDIA MISOGYNY GASLIGHTS MEGHAN

If you thought misogyny was a thing of the past, think again. All you have to do is go on social media to see pages of derogatory posts about Meghan Markle. Although she graduated from a prestigious university, became a successful actress and wrote a wildly popular blog, it seems she really can’t do anything right. It’s bad enough that she married a handsome prince. She’s also beautiful and smart—a lethal combination in the minds of the Meghan haters. It’s okay to be beautiful if you know your place in the patriarchy and don’t try to compete with men. It’s also fine to be bright if you’re overweight, plain, or unattractive. But beautiful and smart is just too much. Male misogynists see her as a threat to their masculine superiority, and the females are green with envy. All the media misogynists delight in gaslighting Megan.

MEDIA MISOGYNISTS GASLIGHT MEGHAN beause she's beautiful and smart. — MEDIA MISOGYNISTS GASLIGHT MEGHAN because she’s way too beautiful and smart.

Let’s start at the beginning. A bi racial woman who lived in a garage apartment with a single mom is not supposed to rise to the top of anything. One of their favorite insults is that she was a B actress. Hey, what’s wrong with that? According to reports, she made about half million a year while acting in “Suits.” Not bad for a boot strapper. Most of the A actors got there because of their connections with Hollywood insiders: Dakota Johnson, Kate Hudson, Nicholas Cage, Sissy Spacek, to name a few. The list goes on and on. But that’s okay—they somehow deserve their place on the A train.

The haters invalidate any of her words or actions by saying she’s nothing but an actress. I suspect Megan became an actress for the same reason Harry became a prince. Her parents worked in the movie business. Harry’s parents were in the royalty business. But if she says she was depressed or felt objectified by a part in a tv show, they refuse to validate her feelings. She can’t express any emotion because to them, it’s all just “acting.”

And then, she had the nerve to marry an English prince. Of course, she’s just a gold digger. I’ve heard that said a thousand times. What? You marry a charming, drop dead handsome hunk for his money? I’d think you might fall madly in love with Harry even if he were nothing but a commoner.. In some ways, she’s the one who married “down.” Harry never had to compete for a real job, and he didn’t even go to college. Megan struggled on her own to graduate college and make it as an actress. Obviously, she’s the more accomplished of the two. And I’ll give Harry credit for appreciating that. He behaves as a gentlemen and treats her with the respect she deserves.

It’s glaringly apparent that the media misogynists want to to bring Megan down to their level, or worse. They’d love it if she ended up living in a trailer park and waiting tables at Hooters. If that were to happen, they would finally get the schadenfreude they’re so desperately seeking. But I’m afraid they’re going to be disappointed, because Meghan is way too smart for that

April 12, 2021April 12, 2021

WHERE WILL HARRY STAY?

Since he’s persona non grata in the UK, you have to wonder: where will Prince Harry stay when he comes back to London for his Grandpa’s funeral next week? As everyone knows, the Brits are pretty mad about his interview with Oprah when he bashed the monarchy over the way his wife was treated.

Some people have said Harry shouldn’t be allowed back in England after he threw his family under the bus while Prince Phillip was in the hospital. On the other hand, Americans, for the most part, have a favorable view of Harry and Meghan. Maybe he should have just sent his respects and stayed in California? I don’t think so. He has every right to attend the funeral of his Grandfather with whom he was very close, from all accounts.

Where will Harry stay? The Brits are mad at him, so he won't be welcome many places. — Where will Harry stay when he returns for his Grandpa’s funeral? Once he was popular, but now he’s persona non grata in England. .

Anyway, back to his accommodations. My husband and I have a bet–he says Harry will be put up at Windsor Castle. I say he won’t be invited, and even if he were, he wouldn’t accept. It’s possible he might stay with some of his mom’s relatives in the Spencer family. I imagine they would welcome him with open arms. But today, I read that he will probably stay with Princess Eugenie. That makes sense.

Besides being best cousin-friends, they have another, stronger bond. Eugenie’s dad, Prince Andrew brought some serious disgrace to the royals, after cavorting with the infamous Jeffrey Epstein’s underage female friends. So Eugenie understands what it’s like to be the family black sheep. Of all the relatives, she would probably be the least judgmental of whatever Harry said or did in the Oprah interview.

At any rate, I doubt if Harry will be staying at the London Hilton or the Best Western. Royals don’t stay in motels or hotels.

During tense family funerals, relatives who envy or despise each other are forced to be in the same room. It’s surprisingly doable. You manage not to stand near one another. And if you do come face to face, you simply smile and move on. Above all, you avoid conflict out of respect for the deceased. But don’t expect any warm reconciliations.. Family feuds run dark and deep over real or imagined injustices.

Meanwhile, where will Harry stay?

March 29, 2021March 29, 2021

Misogyny Targets Meghan Markle

Women have come a long way in the past 50 years. I came of age at a time when college girls weren’t allowed to wear pants on campus. Jeans could be worn only to chemistry classes. Assertive women were shunned, especially if they were good looking. But that all changed in the 60’s, when the pill allowed women the same freedom men had always enjoyed. Women no longer have to depend on men for their livelihood. They now have access to careers in formerly male -dominated occupations like doctor, lawyers, and engineers. And yet, when we see the way misogyny targets Meghan Markle, we know it’s alive and well in Britain and all over the world.

Some misogynists simply hate all beautiful women. But British television reporter Piers Morgan demonstrates a particular kind of misogyny. They don’t hate beautiful women who conform to their ideal of the way women should act: women who defer to men in all things, and behave as if they are inferior to men in ability and intelligence. Morgan’s particular kind of misogyny is reserved for women with power and status, who stand up for themselves and make their own decisions.

Why do the British love Kate Middleton and hate Meghan Markle? Because Kate is nothing more than a wife and mother. She has never accomplished much of anything on her own. She came from a wealthy family, and was called “waity Katy,” because she dated Prince William for 9 years before he finally proposed.. She’s sweet and demure and never challenges the status quo. She knows what good for her, and that’s to behave more or less like a Stepford Wife. Look beautiful and fashionable, and be a good sport when your husband has an affair with your best friend.

But Meghan was a bootstrapper from the git go. A mixed race child from a marriage that ended in divorce. A little girl envied and despised by her step siblings. Graduated from Northwestern University, then finally made it as an actress in a popular television series. Then had the nerve to get a divorce from a man she no longer loved. This is not what wins the heart of misogynists like Piers Morgan.

Misogyny is alive and well, even in the United States. Misogyny targets Megan Markle, but you know what? I think she can handle it.

March 10, 2021March 10, 2021

WELCOME TO AMERICA, HARRY

One of the interesting things about getting our DNA results from Ancestry.com was discovering that we are about half English. This, in spite of the fact that both my husband and I had German surnames. My mother was a genealogy freak, so I knew there were some English ancestors. But my husband grew up around so many German aunts, uncles and grandparents that he assumed he was mostly German. He isn’t. In fact, he’s got some Scottish, Swedish and Irish genes . At any rate, after seeing Oprah’s Meghan-Harry interview on CBS, we’re both glad our ancestors left England . Welcome to America, Harry.

My husband’s English blood came from his mother’s family. The first Frost left England about 1635 to escape some kind of religious persecution. He must have thrived here, because there are some illustrious folks named Frost all over the USA.

My English blood came from my Grandfather White. It’s such a common name that I can’t claim a family connection to anyone with the same surname. James White sailed over to Virginia about 300 years ago.. Although uneducated, he managed to move his family of 12 sons up to Indiana, and acquired 5,000 acres of farmland. Someone must have married well, because my mother was able to join the DAR by proving that one of her ancestors signed the Declaration of Independence.

What would have happened if Edmund Frost and James White had stayed in England? My husband and I would be citizens of a monarchy. Descending from commoners, we might not be living very well. Maybe on the dole. And part of our taxes would be going to support the most antiquated political system that can possibly be imagined. What would happen if the monarchy collapsed? Who would care if the British Commonwealth no longer had a King or Queen?

We’re glad our ancestors left England, and I would imagine that the descendants of the prince will be grateful that he did, too.

Welcome to America, Harry. The land of the free, and the home of the brave.

“The woods are lovely, dark and deep,

But I have promises to keep,

And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.”

….Robert Frost

February 17, 2020February 17, 2020

SHOULD YOU ASK SOMEONE TO LOSE WEIGHT?

The media has taken out after poor Meghan Markle again. This time, they’re saying that she had the nerve to tell her husband to lose weight. On top of that, they claim she’s started picking out his clothes. Where do they come up with all this supposedly inside information? Was a reporter hiding in their bedroom closet? Maybe someone noticed Prince Harry had dropped a few pounds , and concocted this story. But it does present a moral issue: Should you ask someone to lose weight? Should you help your husband pick out new clothes?

Body shaming is another matter. It’s harmful to make fun of someone’s size. My sister struggled with overweight as a young adult, and was often the target of ridicule. She ended up taking so many diet pills that it affected her mental health for the rest of her life.

Should a wife tell a husband to lose some weight — A caring wife may ask her husband to lose some weight.

On the other hand, what is so terrible about a concerned wife suggesting her husband lose a few pounds? Seem to me, it’s the caring thing to do. My husband has bad knees, and must walk with a cane. When he starts complaining, I’m apt to suggest he take off a few pounds to relieve the pressure on his joints. Maintaining a normal weight is also important for heart health. On top of that, he’s a diabetic. Is a wife supposed to ignore it when her husband starts packing on the pounds?

Research has shown that the loss of 10 pounds can lead to a healthier life. Benefits may include: 1) 50% reduction in heart disease. 2) 60% reduction in diabetes risk. 3) 50 % decrease in arthritis.

What’s so mean and terrible about that?

About the clothes issue: My husband always wants me with him when he buys new clothes. I can tell him which colors are unflattering, or when the shoulders of a jacket or sweater are too saggy—things he doesn’t always notice. By the same token, I want his advice on what to wear for special occasions. Seems to me that’s one good thing about having a loving spouse or partner.

So I’m asking the media: please leave Meghan alone. It won’t hurt Harry at all to lose some weight. And it might inspire others to do the same.

January 29, 2020January 29, 2020

IS MEGHAN A MODERN CINDERELLA?

Does anyone remember watching the wedding of Meghan & Harry? The look on his face , as he whispered, “I’m so lucky?” Yes, he is lucky, because he married a woman who is much stronger than he. She’s a middle class , biracial American girl. He’s the entitled British prince who rescued her from an uncertain future. That’s how it appears on the surface. But is Meghan a Modern Cinderella? I don’t think so.

Her parents divorced at an early age, and it appears she came from a dysfunctional step family. In spite of those disadvantages, she was a go getter from an early age. She attended the prestigious Northwestern University and graduated with a double major. From there, she went on to a successful acting career, culminating in a seven year run in the Canadian television show, Suits. In 2014, she started a wildly successful lifestyle blog called Tig, which attracted millions of viewers,

Contrast that with Prince Harry. He was born into privilege. Safe to say he’s never worried about job interviews. He hasn’t done anything on his own. He didn’t graduate from college, but was handed a career in the Royal military.

Unlike Meghan, he never had to rely on his talents, or work his way up from nowhere. If it weren’t for his royal family, he wouldn’t be much of a catch. He’s admitted to some serious emotional problems due to his mother’s tragic death at the age of twelve. Also, he’s spent his entire adult life with people questioning his paternity. Think how upsetting to constantly see pictures of your supposed “real father,” in the tabloids, all the while wondering if you really are a royal.

Marrying Meghan was probably the best thing that ever happened to Harry.. She’s talented, but tough. He needs her strength to bolster his fragile sense of self. Emotionally, she appears to be the much stronger of the two. And far more accomplished.

Meghan has been criticized for leaving the royal family. Actually, it looks like she rescued Harry from a dreary, stilted life of performing royal duties. If it weren’t for her, he would have spent the rest of his life in the shadow of his brother, doing what he was told, and watching his p’s and q’s. Meghan has freed him from all of that and given him a chance to reinvent himself, and chart his own path.

Is Meghan Markle really a Cinderella who was rescued by Prince Charming? Or was Harry the prince who was rescued by Wonder Woman?

November 25, 2019November 26, 2019

ANOTHER CRACK IN THE CROWN

What is it about the British upper class? They always sound so bloody snobbish, and cold as ice. I guess it’s the old stiff upper lip at work. Showing emotion isn’t considered classy. I think that was Prince Andrew’s problem the other day, during the BBC’s News night interview. When asked about his friendship with sex offender Jeffrey Epstein, Andrew didn’t seem perturbed. He was just behaving the way he was taught, but it didn’t go down well. Now his Mom has had to fire him in order to satisfy the British taxpayers. It’s another Crack in the Crown.

Prince Andrew had a disastrous interview on the BBC — Prince Andrew seemed cold and unrepentant during his interview on the BBC.

Andrew should have sat down with his nephew’s wife, Meghan Markle, before the interview. He needed some acting lessons. Look how she got all teary eyed and emotional about how mean the British media has been. Now everyone thinks she’s been treated like dirt, and the world loves her, even if the queen doesn’t.

.Fiona Hill, former National Security Council adviser, who testified during the Trump impeachment hearings, had the same problem.. She was thin lipped, stiff, and coldly judgmental. His British accent was so thick that I could barely understand her. She wasn’t a very good witness for the prosecution, except in the eyes of the media, who hung on her every word. But to the average person in the Heartland, she came across as a British snob looking down on us tacky Americans. (She became an American citizen in 2002. )

One good thing– Andrew’s disastrous interview got Meghan and Harry out of the limelight. Whatever they said or did during their own controversial public interview was dwarfed by Andrew’s debacle. At least they hadn’t been caught running around with a criminal, and brushing it off like lint on a sleeve.

I don’t feel sorry for Andrew. He’ll be perfectly fine because the British Royals have had hundreds of years to accumulate enough wealth to take them into the next century. He’s pretty well fixed. Heck, he could move to Indiana with his money and live like a king. But of course, he won’t. It wouldn’t be classy, and he might have to behave like a normal human being.

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