If you were young and single in the fifties, there were a lot of bad girls out there. Unmarried females weren’t supposed to have much of a sex life. To do so, would be at great risk to your reputation. Intimacy allowed in unmarried relationships was limited and clearly regulated. Kissing was about the only thing a girl could do if she wanted to have a “good reputation.” If you were going steady in high school, pinned during college, or engaged after that, you might go a little further. But going “all the way” was verboten. Nevertheless, a lot of so-called trashy girls, did. But now, we’re into the 21st century, and you have to wonder. Where have all the bad girls gone?

Of course, the real reason for all the abstinence was the fear of pregnancy. If a bad girl did get pregnant, the young man responsible was expected to marry her. However, there was no DNA testing available. Consequently, If a man wanted to contest a paternity suit, all he had to do was take five of his buddies with him to court. That was the magic number. Five. If five males swore under oath that they, also, had sex with the pregnant girl, the man was off the hook. He didn’t have to marry her or pay child support. The assumption being that promiscuity precluded the ability to ascertain which man was the biological father.

In 1963, availability of oral contraceptives began to change all that. Girls could have sex without worrying so much about pregnancy. The pill was a far more reliable method of birth control than condoms. Then, ten years later , the most important thing happened: Roe Vs. Wade made it legal for women to get abortions. Finally, women were free to act like men always had. Call it free love, free sex, whatever. All of a sudden, girls and boys started living together even if they weren’t married. If a girl got pregnant and had a baby, it was because she wanted to, not because she had to. Now, 40% of all births are to single moms. There are no bad girls anymore.

Where have all the bad girls gone? Kamala Harris would have been considered one back in the fifties.

Where Have All The Bad Girls Gone? Back in the fifties, Kamala Harris would have been considered one of them.. The Times, They Are A Changing.

Which brings us around to the love life of Kamala Harris, the vice presidential candidate for the 2020 election. It’s public knowledge that she had a long time affair with Willie Brown, the former mayor of San Francisco, when she was twenty-nine and he was sixty.. Fifty years ago, a woman who had a very public affair with a married man would have been considered one of those “bad girls.” There were names for women who did such things—four letter words ending with T. Certainly she would not have been seen as fit for the 2nd highest office in the United States. The Times , They Are A Changing..

Where have all the bad girls gone? I’m not sure there ever were any.

There’s a big controversy going in our city about sex education in the public schools. Most parents in our community don’t want their children to learn about different types of birth control. They think teens should be told that abstinence is the only sure way to avoid pregnancy. Well, actually, they’re right. But it doesn’t take a six week class to explain that. And do teens need instruction on the mechanics of procreation? All they need do is go to the movies or watch cable TV to see how the act is performed. The question is: should schools teach about sex at all?

Having attended parochial schools for 12 years, I never received sex education. From the first grade on , we children celebrated the feast of the Immaculate Conception, without having the slightest idea what it meant.. What was a virgin, I used to wonder? That was the extent of sex education during my school years. On the other hand, I don’t recall my public school friends attending sex education classes. . But somehow, by the time we were teens, all of us understood” sex.” . How did we find out? Word of mouth, mostly. Or maybe pamphlets provided by our parents. The nuns warned against the sin of “petting” in religion class. And yes, we knew that abstinence was the only sure way to prevent pregnancy. Which led to a lot of fooling around without “going all the way.”

However, some people had sex, anyway. Consequently, they got pregnant, which was a major social disgrace. In 1965 only 3% of all white births were outside of marriage, and 24% of black births. Somehow, the majority of young people had a pretty good idea about birth control, even though they didn’t learn about it in school.

But in 1971, all public schools were required to implement a sex education program. Strangely enough, that didn’t help matters. By 1978, 20% of white births and 75% of black births were to unmarried women. Now, movie stars and TV personalities brag about getting pregnant outside the state of matrimony. Almost half all births are now to single moms. it’s ’s important for kids to know about STD’s, but that topic could be covered quickly in a basic health class. It’s not rocket science.

Should teachers in public school be asked to teach about sex? — SHOULD PARENTS EXPECT TEACHERS TO ASSUME THE RESPONSIBILITY OF SEX EDUCATION?

I know this is going to sound old fashioned, but shouldn’t parents be the ones who decide how their children learn about sex? And if parents don’t take this responsibility, should it be passed on to the public school teachers. ? They’re teachers, not parents. It seems like an unfair burden.

And why should strangers be allowed to tell our children how, where, and when to have sex? Shouldn’t the parents’ cultural and spiritual values guide their children’s decisions?

The problem isn’t about what schools should teach about sex, but whether they should be teaching about it all .

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WHERE HAVE ALL THE BAD GIRLS GONE?

SHOULD SCHOOLS TEACH ABOUT SEX?