In the olden days (40 years ago) people who were so inclined took nude pictures of each other using a Polaroid camera.  This was considered ultra private, but even then, a rejected lover might use them as revenge photos to embarrass his former lover. Next came digital cameras, where you could go to Walmart and process your own photos, even though someone could be looking over your shoulder.   Now we have skanky male Iphone selfies which is probably the biggest risk.  Some snarky perp can easily hack into your cellphone and use the pictures for blackmail.

Why, then, would successful, intelligent men  continue to  send nude selfies over the phone?  Are they overestimating their visual appeal for the women in their lives?

The success of magazines like Play Boy provide ample proof that men love seeing naked women.  Thus, males  assume the opposite is true, and that a female would love seeing their genitals.  But numerous studies have shown that a woman is less aroused by visual stimuli than a man.  Sales of magazines depicting male nudes aren’t big sellers.  In other words, the average woman Isn’t nearly as turned on seeing a naked man, as a man is in seeing a naked woman. Don’t ask me why.  Maybe we’ve changed too many diapers.

But if a man sends  a revealing photo to a woman,  she knows his ego is at stake.  She’s not about to let him know it’s not having the effect that he imagines.  Most men don’t realize that  women are far more aroused by touch.  The feeling of being embraced by a strong, muscular man is far more sensual and romantic than seeing him emerge from the shower.

Men, a picture of your “junk” isn’t nearly as arousing to women as you would like to think.  As the saying goes, it’s way Too Much Information, and  not worth the risk of sending over the phone.